Been thinking that the last post was just the beginning. We have many in churches that are focused on themselves and not on someone else. Today I was speaking with someone else about ministry and relationships and in our conversation I was reminded of my time as a teen in our church. I had been in teens for almost 2 years, Trisha had moved on from our Youth Group and I was bored. I didn’t like the way the group was being run and being all of 17 or so, I knew better how to run it. That was when Ken Bournival my future father-in-law made an observation that maybe I shouldn’t be going to Youth Group for what I could get out of it but for what I could give into it. I then began to look at my teen leader in a different light. I saw a man and his wife that were sacrificing their time every Saturday to minister to a bunch of cranky and crabby teenagers. I determined that night that this ministry would no longer be about me; it would be about someone else. Even though Rick was my leader, and I was his responsibility, I determined through God’s help that I would be a blessing to him and that when he looked back on his time with me he would have no regrets.
Churches today (even in my church:-0) have developed a me first and consumer mentality. There are business models for churches and management models for churches and programs for churches and you name it for churches that leave out the fact that we are here for someone else. A church isn’t a business. It has business aspects, but it isn’t a business. Church isn’t the military. It has aspects of the military, we are a war against the devil and his agenda, but we aren’t the military. A church is a sheepfold. A church is a body. A church is a family. If you are a Christian, you should be a part of a local church. You can toss your excuse as to why you aren’t, God established the local church for you and for His glory. Usually when I have spoken with a person out of church they blame someone else. The pastor changed the dress standard, the children’s ministry isn’t being run effectively or someone else hurt their feelings.
It’s time for church to be about someone else. It’s time to look out at the congregation and ministry that God has called you to, and be a blessing to someone else. Find that frazzled leader and be a blessing to him. When I determined to bless Rick, I didn’t ask his permission, I didn’t even tell him I was doing anything (I might have been afraid of his mustache at that point) I just did things to ease his burden for. I showed up, was friendly to new kids, helped clean up and set up and above all I tried to follow Jesus. Jesus said that we should do the things that he said. The fact is that we need to be here to bless someone else and that we ought to bear someone else’s burdens, that we that are spiritual ought to restore those that have fallen in meekness and care and gentleness (not seeing a lot of that these days in churches).
So how about it? Is church and ministry about you? Or just maybe, is it about someone else?